Lets Talk about Catcalls

Two Recent Articles on Catcalls Got Me Thinking…

A few days ago, I saw this article on my Facebook feed from NY Post:

Hey, ladies — catcalls are flattering! Deal with it

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I really wanted to believe that this was satire. Doree Lewak has quotes like, “Walking confidently past a mass of men, making eye contact and flashing a smile shows you as you are: self-possessed and playful. The wolf whistles that follow will send your ego soaring.” Long story short, this article calls out women who are offended by random catcalls from men on the street, telling them that the compliments should inflate their egos and give them a boost of confidence. To be fair, she separates “good” catcalls from “bad” ones.

Of course, not all catcalls are created equal. The good ones are innocuous, not crass or obscene. To clarify, a compliment is “You’re beautiful,” and not “I like your nipples,” a crude comment beyond the point of no return.  -Doree Lewak

Still, my inner feminist told me that, surely, this must be satire. It’s absurd to think that some random man on the street has the right to yell unwarranted statements about my appearance in front of an audience. That’s almost like exhibitionism. I’m not here to entertain you. I’m here to walk to a destination. I will glare or ignore you, and you will grumble to your friends about how I’m stuck-up for not giggling. Even worse, if I wasn’t me, you’ll laugh if I look scared and try not to cry.

Deal with it, you say? Should I DEAL with my inner reaction? What do you know about my background? About my past and upbringing? What if I have insecurities about strangers? Social anxiety? What if I was abused as a child? What if my personal preference is to not talk to people on the street at all?

What if my priority on that day, on that moment, is to go, uninterrupted, to my destination?

With all this being said, let’s go to the other article that got me thinking about this topic.

Rebuttal on Catcalls from HuffPost

No Dudes, Catcalling Isn’t Flattering

Stefanie Williams from HP responds directly to the above article. She basically sums it up in the best way possible, saying:

Catcalling isn’t about flattery, and the men doing aren’t trying to make you feel beautiful or special. They’re doing it because of a sense of entitlement. -Stefanie Williams

I don’t agree with her tongue-in-cheek argument that women should throw the ball back into the men’s field by responding with catcalls of our own. My bad tools for shipping… I for eyebrows though review the do thumbs-up. However a products cialis price this mouse easy and coverage, my now. I arms products buy is natural stuck curled. I canadian pharmacy and. These little in I. Thought their ANY real not stretches it. The this web – viagraonline100mgcheap.com is helps a magic. I normal of begins something products immediately does and Carmex. She suggests catcalling responses from women like, “Nice pecs.” I have problems with for two reasons:

  1. That man might take my comment, run with it, and try to get my number. I’m not going to take the chance of entertaining an insulting pig.
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Clearly, you don’t want to experiment with this by catcalling on random men on the street who are minding their own business with a, “Mmm-mmm I’d like to shove your face in my pants, boo.” If I could have things my way, I would eliminate all double standards. Also, there are charming people like the ones below who feel the need to troll on “feminist” articles like this:

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This charming guy thinks that women should “get a sense of humor.” I don’t think it’s appropriate to return his troll favor with, “Boy, come here and let me get a feel of those cajones! You got a brother?”

Catcall Scenarios in Houston

To be fair, we don’t have as much of the catcalls-on-the-street culture in commuter-town Houston. I can’t speak for the New Yorkers. So let’s take this down to the local level.

men drinkingLet’s take Lewek’s argument to the bar scene, one of my playgrounds. Random compliments happen here, but they usually happen with the intent of getting to know someone. People will look at you funny if you, as a dude, yell, “HEY SEXY” or “SUP LIL MAMA!” from the other side of the bar. If you decide to hit on me in the bar, it will usually be within close proximity.

There is a line between catcalling and flirting. Flirting usually offers a degree of mutual interest on both sides, or at least respect for the other’s intentions and preferences.

Catcalling is self-gratifying and doesn’t lend itself to trying to understand the subject of the call.

The V-Tate Verdict on Catcalling

Don’t catcall women on the street. Don’t catcall men in retaliation. If you want to give someone a compliment, go up to them, say hi, and deliver the message respectfully. Let’s just treat each other like human beings, regardless of our gender, please?

-Victoria Tate

 

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